Are You A Leader Or A Follower?

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When people would ask me, “Are you a leader or a follower?” I would proudly reply “Oh, I am a follower.” My passive behaviour, my non-committal personality and my people-pleasing tendencies seemed to fit well as a submissive follower.

But lately my view about leadership has changed. I read a book by John Maxwell called “The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership.” Maxwell is so bold as to say “Leadership ability is the lid that determines a person’s level of effectiveness. The lower an individual’s ability to lead, the lower the lid on his potential.”

He goes on to say, “Whatever you will accomplish is restricted by your ability to lead others. Personal and organizational effectiveness is proportionate to the strength of leadership.”

Reading such statements challenged my passive involvement in life. Was he indeed telling me that I will never reach my potential unless I develop leadership abilities? Is he so bold as to believe that everyone can be a leader? Too many chefs in the kitchen cause chaos and confusion.

He convinced me that I should be a leader, at least in the sphere of influence I presently find myself. There are times to be a follower, but there are times to be a leader too. If I am wise, I will learn to submit to those who are wiser. There are times to submit myself to authority, humble myself and learn from those in authority. A good leader is a good follower.

Proverbs 12:24 says “Work hard and become a leader; be lazy and never succeed.” Being passive, lazy and non-committed in my workplace was hindering me from developing my potential” I remember telling myself “Why would I want to be a leader? I have enough headaches already.

Delegating to people who don’t follow through and being blamed for everything, who wants that? Managing others when I can hardly take care of myself, that’s not for me.”

My mind was set on being passive and always looking for the easy way out. But as I began to get out of my comfort zone and do things I didn’t like to do or want to do, I truly began to develop new abilities that I did not have before.

At first I still felt unsure and I was somewhat afraid. Even so I started to step out of my comfort zone. I admitted my ignorance in areas and started to ask for help. I swallowed my pride and my concern for making mistakes. The fear departed and I started to grow in leadership abilities and thus to tap into greater potential, especially in the area of organizational skills.

Becoming a leader has had positive affects in every aspect of my life and I would highly recommend that you do likewise, at least in your sphere of influence.

Are you a leader or a follower? Be both.

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Handling Stress in your Life

 

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In one of my classes I asked the group what are some causes of stress. One of the participants said “life.” That just about sums it up. If we are alive, we will encounter stressful situations that can affect us in negative ways.

Here are a few of the symptoms that an excessive amount of stress can cause:

Headaches

Ulcers

Digestive problems

Tension in neck and shoulders

Insomnia

Nervous tension

Shortness of breathe

Misdirected anger

Irritability

Eating disorders

Lack of concentration

A feeling of hopelessness

We know we should not worry and have anxiety, yet it seems so hard at times. Our bodies are not made to handle undue constant pressure. We can’t take it on all by ourselves

Sometimes we are trying too hard to make things happen. Find out what is the cause of your stress. Start asking yourself some questions to take inventory of your life.

    • 1. Am I the right person for this job?

 

    • 2. Is this problem just temporary?

 

    • 3. Who can help me?

 

    • 4. What is the solution to this problem?

 

    • 5. Whom do I need to talk to?

 

    • 6. Am I taking care of my own health?

 

    • 7. Am I communicating my needs in a positive way?

 

    • 8. Am I utilizing my skills and abilities?

 

    • 9. Am I doing what I love to do?

If you find yourself in a temporary challenging situation, you should be able to handle it. For example when you start a new job, there is a certain amount of stress in the beginning. Some of the stress could include getting to know your co-workers, learning new skills, remembering new procedures, understanding new policies. The question to ask yourself is, “Can I handle this for now, and if not then what changes do I need to make?’

Here are some strategies you can start implementing into your life to deal with stress in a positive way.

Breathe deeply

Exercise

Play sports

Enjoy a hobby

Spend some time in nature

Get adequate sleep

Eat nutritious foods

Maintain a positive support system

Receive professional counseling

Deal with situations as they arise

Journal your thoughts in a safe place

Learning to deal with stress will help to keep you in the race for the long term. Remember you don’t want to be like the hare that became exhausted, but rather the turtle that went at a steady pace and won the race.

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Working with Excellence

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Work is a very large part of our lives and it’s important to know how to make the most of it. Do you work just to pay the bills or do you work to contribute to life? Is your goal to make this world a better place and to leave people better than you found them? May be it’s time for you to find more purpose and meaning in your work.

Take the initiative to do what it takes to do your work with excellence. Go get the information, skills and confidence you need.

We don’t want to be lazy or see how much we can get away with on our jobs. You can do just what is required or you can raise the standard. Here are some tips to make you a valuable employee.

 

  • Help whoever you can.
  • Demonstrate loyalty.
  • Do your best work every day. Look, sound and behave professionally.
  • Cultivate optimistic solutions. Become a shareholder in success. Present solutions, options and recommendations.
  • Never complain at work.

Many jobs have a yearly review of your work performance, but why wait for a year? Take the initiative to go to your boss and ask for feedback. Ask for more challenging assignments. Keep your boss informed on issues and welcome input and advice. Make sure your boss doesn’t have to chase you down. Keep your supervisor informed. Here are some questions you could ask:

 

  • “What do you see as my greatest strengths?”
  • “Where would you like to see greater effort?”
  • “What skills do I need, to be more effective?”
  • “Where should I spend more time? Or less time?”
  • “How can I become more valuable?”

Understand your boss and respond to him/her in the most appropriate way.

For example if your boss is unorganized; build in reminders, confirm priorities frequently or offer to take something off his/her too-full plate.

If your boss is reactive; help your boss anticipate issues and develop plans to be more prepared.

If your boss is unavailable; find ways to work more independently keep communication flowing from your end with written updates, be prepared to discuss key issues at any given moment and be concise.

If your boss makes bad decision; provide recommendations with supporting factual data, and once you’ve made your stand, respect your boss’s decision even if you disagree with it and move on.

If your boss is incompetent; demonstrate loyalty, do what you can to make your boss look good and never complain to co-workers. Become more of a resource and seek advice from a mentor.

Why don’t you start today by making a fresh commitment to put your best foot forward? Implementing some of these tips are bound to make you more valuable in your work place and help you to contribute more to society.

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Chaplains for Christian businesses

 

Alice Maryniuk loves her job. Every Tuesday, she goes to work at a large kitchen cabinet company in Abbotsford. She is not a cabinet-maker, a receptionist, a manager, or a foreman, but she does work alongside the employees of every department. She is a chaplain with Marketplace Chaplains, hired by Columbia Kitchen Cabinets to meet the spiritual needs of its 160 employees.

Chaplain Alice Maryniuk and Nikki Biondi (in the black shirt) Columbia Kitchen Cabinets employee

Greeting employees weekly

The hiring of chaplains to provide personal care for employees is a growing trend in the private sector, and the practice is bearing fruit in boosting employee morale, along with a sense of care. Maryniuk makes her rounds like a doctor and greets every employee weekly.

“Not all the topics we discuss are necessarily faith-based,” explained Maryniuk. “Someone might come to work who just had a fight with her husband, or maybe someone needs a listening ear because their teenager has been swearing at them or calling them names.”

If it looks like a discussion is going to need more than five minutes, Maryniuk suggests meeting the employee at lunch or after work, although the employee must take the initiative for the meeting. What they discuss is confidential, and as trust is established, employees open up more to share what’s happening in their lives, what’s affecting or troubling them.

As with any workplace, many of the employees are not Christian. Some don’t believe in God, or follow other faiths, or have drifted away from their Christian walk. “A chaplain can be a pastor for the unchurched,” Maryniuk said. She cares for all people, not just those who have made a decision for Christ. “Managers have reported to me they’re seeing an improvement in their employees because they’re feeling cared for, they’ve got someone to help them to listen to them.”

Benefits to employees

The employees themselves are seeing a positive change in their workplace, and some are seeing victory in their personal lives. Nikki Biondi, a sales rep for Columbia Cabinets, said there is a greater sense of peace at work and increased job satisfaction. “Before our company did this, my life was like a lot of people’s – up and down, and a lot of turbulence,” Biondi shared. “Since I met Alice, a lot of peace has [come] into my life. And even the people who don’t believe [in God], it’s incredible the change in them. The change is all around me.”

“There is nothing small that’s been happening at my workplace since she came,”

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